Finding His Inner Woman…

So with having two girls the Husband has had to learn to find his inner woman and I fear he may be a little to much attuned!

I mean take the other morning for example, I timed how long it took to do my hair and it took me approx 3 minutes, yes I know…

How do I do it?! 

Well, it helps only having hair on a quarter of my head….

Anywhooooo, he then went to do his hair, I looked and I waited. I waited a whole 15 minutes before he was done?! 15 minutes to do less hair than I have?

How?!

I blame this whole having two girls thing, he is currently learning to do ponytails and one day, I hope to eventually teach him how to plat, however that is still a long way off…..

I fear that the fact he is getting the hang of having no bumps in a ponytail, means his hair should be equally as pretty?!

The next stage is matching clothes, I am sick of seeing dresses over jumpers and jeans!!!!!!!

Although I did okay socks and sandals the other day, due to the fact we were already running late, he even commented on the fact she was wearing socks and sandals.

He’ll be bloody crying at the news next.

Has your Husband managed to channel his inner woman?!

“Please Don’t Squeeze Your Sister’s Head!!”

Yup, its something I have found myself saying repeatedly recently, “please don’t squeeze your sister’s head” and no matter how many times I say it, it still does not sink in.

I swear, being a mother means we might as well have ‘Please Ignore’ written on our foreheads, even my husband finds the urge to completely ignore me far too appealing.

And to be honest, I blame the kids.

I think he is learning it from them.

I can be repeatedly telling Pops to please not sit on the dog and she just carries on sitting on the poor animal, it usually gets to the point where I am either shouting each word very slowly but loudly OR going and taking her off the dog, sister or table.

Husband wise I can ask him 4/5 times to please pick up my prescription from town, whilst he is getting ready to leave for said journey to town. Only for him to tell me to stop telling him as he heard me the first time. Then on his return I ask about the prescription, only to be told he forget?! HOW?!

I do sometimes wonder if they have like a thing going on to see who can ignore Mummy for the longest.

Its a very similar when it comes to things like housework and trying to teach the small people between the rights and wrongs we human folk face.

I can tell them all over and over and over and over again, only for it to be forgotten two minutes later, when they have fallen down the toilet or forgotten to feed the dog.

Sometimes I feel like I need one of those megaphones! Hmmmm….

shouting

 

I could stop nagging and trying to bring the girls up with a little bit of class but that would be too easy…. That is what they want!!!

Maybe I just need to come at it from a different angle?

Maybe treats or tummy rubs?! NO sorry that is dogs. Maybe I could take away the TV and all game systems? Then they would have no choice but to listen?!

Whoever says they don’t have this problem because their family are perfect is lying, that or they just haven’t noticed yet! 

To you, my husband!

My children mean the world to me, they get me through each day and make me smile when I’m full of tears! But there is another person in my life and he goes by the name of hubby. Some people say there is someone out there for everyone, but what are the chances of you finding that person? Well I’m pleased to say I did. It was a very whirlwind relationship but i no i don’t regret a minute of it! 

Since my MS diagnosis he has held my hand, wiped my tears, taken me to all the appointments and cheered me up when he can see I’m struggling. I wouldn’t say we were perfect, we fight and argue and he still forgets that its not me being lazy I just can’t do all I used to be able to do. With all the assessments we have had through our vision support worker and social worker, yes I have a social worker and i could not imagine my life without her, but that is a story for another day! These assessments really highlight all the things I am unable to do and that hubby has had to take on. It makes me see how much he does for me at times when I feel like he does not! Not once has he been resentful to me or refused to help, hes only to happy to get up in the night with either girl, he gives me those extra hours in bed which my body so desperately need! I cannot begin to imagine my life without him by my side.

Seeing how other people live like friends, family etc it just makes me see that I am lucky and maybe sometimes i don’t tell him enough, or let him have his ‘me’ time as often as I should. 

Having MS in our life has put a big strain on our relationship, but really you would not notice. I always worry that he will leave for someone who doesn’t have this stranger living inside them. I no I need to learn to trust and writing this has made me really think. I am really blessed to have such a wonderful man in mine and our children s life, through all his faults I hope he knows we love him and thank him for all he does and will inevitably have to do.

He really is a great husband and father. x